self-care

Bipolar Self-Care Tips

Bipolar Self-Care Tips

Practicing self-care can lead to personal growth.

This blog post comes from one of our group’s wonderful hosts and leaders, Yvonne.

The notion of self- care is all of the rage these days. I consider it a positive trend but it can be overwhelming to someone that struggles with bipolar disorder, or any other mental illness. Adding just one more thing to your to-do list can feel like too much, especially for those struggling each day just to complete basic tasks.

When you struggle with bipolar disorder, each and every day can feel different. It’s very hard to predict daily moods, at least it is for me. Adding more tasks to my to-do list, such as self-care, can feel like added pressure but it doesn’t have to feel that way. It can feel healing, empowering, and comforting.

When your mood is often all over the place and life gets chaotic, self-care is one of those things that definitely falls by the wayside. There are days and weeks in which I consider it a triumph that I manage to feed and clothe myself properly. I’m personally quite stable currently so I do come at this topic from that viewpoint. When you are in the midst of bipolar mania or depression, the most simple basic tasks can feel impossible.

While medication is what mostly keeps me stable, lifestyle changes also help. I find that when I practice self-care, my life runs much more smoothly and it just helps me feel better. I believe that taking the time to care for myself is vital to my well-being. Self-care is more than sheet masks and manicures, although that can absolutely be part of your self-care routine, it is for me. The following are a few ways that I practice self-care as part of mental health care.

Triggering the Positive

One thing that I don’t see talked about enough, and especially not in the context of self-care is positive triggers. These can be so important when wading through a depressive time. I try to incorporate positive triggers into my life on a regular basis. That is especially the case when I’m in a depressive bipolar mood episode.

The exact triggers will be uniquely personal. I personally enjoy swimming and being around water in general. I know that it will always make me feel uplifted, even at the worst of times. When I can’t swim, I make a point of driving out to a nearby lake or river and spend a little time there. Nature is a positive trigger for a lot of people but depending on the time of year, it’s not as accessible in some climates.

Sometimes the trigger can be edible! While following a healthy way of eating is ideal, I find that allowing myself a few edible triggers to be quite helpful to me. I tend to use those times to visit my favorite restaurants, usually Thai or Indian, and get my favorite meals. It can mean buying some fancy tea and sipping on it. That feeling of treating yourself and triggering the positive can be so fun and so positive for moods.

Medication Management

This is certainly the most fun or exciting act of self-care but it’s a crucial one for me. For the most part, people with bipolar disorder are on some kind of medication cocktail. It’s difficult to treat and we often need multiple medications to treat the myriad of symptoms. It’s not static, medications and dosages are switched up often, at least until you find your perfect cocktail. Ensuring that you get your proper medication each day to stay mentally well is a perfect form of self-care.

Quite frankly, I take a lot of pills. I not only take medication for bipolar disorder, but I am also being treated for generalized anxiety disorder, ADHD, and insomnia. I could not live without my giant pill case. I fill it up once per week no matter what. I use one that has a section for morning and one for the evening. There are a lot of options available, just choose the one that works best for you. Also, keep that large pill case right where you can see it. Seeing the pill case is a reminder for me to take my medication. I keep mine right on the nightstand next to my bed so I can’t miss it. Out of sight is out of mind!

Another way that I manage my medication is to keep track of how many refills are left for each medication. This form of self-care can feel tedious but it’s so much better than the sheer panic that you feel when you realize that you’re about to run out of medication with no refills left. I keep track of the refills, how much of each medication that I have left, and the timing of my next psychiatrist appointment. That way if I need to see my psychiatrist sooner because I’m low on medication, I can go ahead and schedule that.

Feed your Mind

While I watch plenty of television, my favorite way to feed my mind is through books. Books and reading have been a passion for me since as soon as I could read. I always have a book going and it’s my way of practicing self-care. If you are not a book reader, audiobooks can also be a good option. That’s my favorite way of feeding my mind but there are a whole lot of other options.

Another way of feeding your mind means practicing art in one way or another, learning a new language, taking up knitting, or a hobby that is meaningful to you. There are also plenty of sites with low-cost classes, such as Udemy or Skillshare, that you can do in your own time at your own pace.

As an aside, those of us with bipolar disorder often find ourselves beginning projects but not finishing them. Both mania and depression can cause that to happen. It’s important not to beat yourself up about it if that’s the case. You don’t need to do a hobby for many years to benefit from it. Learning a new skill contributes to personal growth and is good for the brain.

Speed Declutter

I’m currently the co-organizer for a bipolar support group so I spend a fair bit of time with other bipolar people. Cleaning and maintaining a home is a very common struggle for many of us with mental health issues. It can feel utterly overwhelming just getting started and seeing through the decluttering and cleaning process.

Now, starting on some Herculean decluttering projects is not often feasible and can feel so overwhelming that you never get around to doing it. Instead, try speed decluttering! Simply grab two garbage bags, one for donation items, and one for garbage.

Make it as easy as just starting with one room. Set a timer for 5 to 10 minutes and sort through your items quickly, starting in one corner of the room and making your way around the room in a clockwise manner, getting rid of things you don’t need or want anymore. Even if you don’t finish with fully decluttering the room, stop when the timer goes off.

At this point, I generally feel motivated enough to continue. I set the timer for 10 minutes more and continue until it’s done. But it’s perfectly fine to stop there. You can declutter multiple rooms per day using this method, or simply one room, one day per week. Either way, it feels like an accomplishment and is a great mood boost.

I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder almost exactly 10 years ago. Managing this illness feels like a full-time job at times. However, these are acts of self-care that I do to help stay stable, keep life in order, and bring me joy.

Setting Digital Boundaries

Setting Digital Boundaries

This blog post comes from one of our group’s wonderful hosts and leaders. We’ve asked our members to share their advice and thoughts.

Typically in uncertain times, we find comfort when we gather with loved ones.  We find the courage to carry on in the eyes of those who know our untapped capabilities. How do we cope when gathering is restricted? We flood the socials with video happy hours, multiplayer games, and shared viewing.  In an isolation crisis, we are lucky the tech industry has released new features, add-ons, and increased bandwidth, to help us all cope.

My daily screen time report has more than doubled.  I am happy to be as connected as I am on the socials but I am concerned about the effects on my mental health. It gives me a sense of belonging to easily share my experiences and view the stories of the ones I care about.  I receive an influx of messages, calls, and tags that leave me drained.  Under normal circumstances, I would have already unplugged but this is uncharted waters for all of us. 

I am taking this opportunity to be more connected and in tune with myself.  I am striving to find a new balance and set digital boundaries.  The COVID-19 outbreak is lasting longer than I was mentally or physically prepared to handle. I want to preserve my initial idea and thoughts about staying at home with endless cups of tea, quality family time, and music for every hour.  I have compiled a list of some helpful ways to set digital boundaries. 

  1. Morning: Set the tone for the day.  Connect with your needs and wants.  Enjoy the quiet or blast some tunes.  Set small goals for the day and prioritize them.  Avoid checking messages or the news. I promise that if there is anything earth-shattering you will be notified.  Certain things can wait until you feel ready for them.

  2. Socials: Don’t let calls interrupt the task at hand unless deemed necessary.  This will help your mind to be more clear and present.  Take advantage of your cell phones various tools and settings. Let it go to voicemail, set a Do Not Disturb hour, and be aware of your screen time monitoring statistics.  Check your notification settings and be selective.  Ask yourself if you really need to be alerted to the specific content or access it on demand.  Setting aside specific times of day for checking messages, socials, and phone calls will help you maintain a healthy limit.  Giving this time your full attention will allow you to reap the benefits from remote social interaction with mindfulness.

  3. News Hour: Staying informed can be an all-encompassing ritual. With repetitive headlines and reports every 2 minutes, it can be daunting, as well as triggering.  Limiting how much time you plug into the news circuit can help anxiety levels. Practice viewing the news at the same time of the day and be careful of watching recycled stories and fake news.

  4. Put the screen down:  Find an activity that requires no screen time.  Let a trusted person know when you’re taking a tech break and when you expect to log back on. Give your eyes a break and engage your other senses. 

  5. Communicate: If you don’t feel like talking, then tell the person you are not in the mood to talk, offer a rain check, or an “I am in the middle of something, can I call you tonight after dinner?” Set up call/video dates and put them on your calendar.  Be honest with yourself and others.  Don’t be shy to tell them it’s not a good time.

  6. Working from Home: Working from home can easily lead to working more than you would in an office setting. Be proactive about communicating your availability.  Your availability should mirror your office environment.  Don’t overextend yourself just because you have the means to work from home. Make time for yourself and set clear boundaries for your work schedule. 

  7. Check-in with yourself.  Nobody knows you better than you. Would you normally be this social if you weren’t in isolation?  Are your social interactions healthy for you? Reflect and do what feels right for you.  If you want or need to reach out, don’t hesitate. If you need a break, then take a break.  This is a chance to spend time with yourself, and enjoy being you with no filter or audience. 

Setting boundaries for yourself and others is no easy feat.  The platform has drastically changed, but that doesn’t mean your assertiveness and other social skills don’t apply.  Setting digital boundaries will help you take care of your mental health.  Be aware, connect, and protect your energy. With all this madness, you are going to need it. 

Please share if you have methods or skills that work for you.  I would really enjoy hearing your feedback.

*Bonus, I follow #becomingunbusy, it feeds my soul and helps me to give the screen a break and just be.  We have this rare time to stay home and listen to our needs without all the societal pressures.

Written by Katy